How to Write a Beautiful Eulogy (With a Simple Template & Example)

Kari Carter • July 30, 2025

How to Write a Beautiful Eulogy (With a Simple Template & Example)

When a loved one dies, many families in Dayton and Kettering are asked a sudden, emotional question: “Would you like to say a few words?” If you’ve never written a eulogy before—or you only have a day or two to prepare—this guide will help. Below you’ll find a simple template, a short example you can adapt, and practical tips so you can honor your loved one with confidence.

What is a eulogy—and how long should it be?

A eulogy is a short speech that celebrates a person’s life. At most funeral or celebration‑of‑life services in the Miami Valley, a eulogy usually lasts 3–7 minutes (about 400–900 spoken words). Aim for one page, double‑spaced—you can always add a brief story if time allows.

Quick-Start Eulogy Template (Fill‑in‑the‑Blanks)

Use this as your starting point. Replace the brackets with your details:

  1. Opening & Relationship
    “Good [morning/afternoon]. My name is [your name], and I am [relationship] of [loved one’s name]. Thank you for being here to remember [him/her/them].”

  2. Who They Were
    “If you knew [name], you knew [three core traits—e.g., generous, funny, steady]. [He/She/They] was born in [city/year], grew up in [place], and built a life around [career, service, hobbies].”

  3. Two Short Stories
    “One story that captures [name] is… [40–60 seconds].
    Another memory I love is… [40–60 seconds].”

  4. What They Taught Us
    “From [name], we learned [values—e.g., show up for family, laugh often, work hard, serve others].”

  5. Gratitude & Farewell
    “Thank you, [name], for [specific gifts]. We will carry your [love, humor, faith, lessons] with us. We love you, and we’ll miss you.”

  6. Closing
    “On behalf of our family, thank you for your kindness, prayers, and presence today.”

Tip: Print it in large font (14–16 pt). Number your pages. Bring water.


3‑Minute Eulogy Example You Can Personalize

Good afternoon. My name is Alex, and I’m Mary Thompson’s daughter. Thank you for being here to celebrate Mom.
If you knew Mom, you knew kindness. She had a way of noticing the person in the room who needed a smile. She grew up on Bigger Road, graduated from Kettering Fairmont, and spent 32 years as a nurse at Miami Valley Hospital. At home, she loved gardening, Buckeye football, and Saturday pancakes with the grandkids.
One story that captures her spirit happened during a winter storm. A neighbor’s power went out, and Mom showed up with blankets, soup, and a lantern—then stayed to play cards until the lights came back on. She believed presence was love.
Another memory I treasure is how she ended every phone call with, “Drive safe. Text me when you get there.” It was her simple way of saying, you matter.
From Mom, we learned to serve quietly, laugh loudly, and love without keeping score.
Mom, thank you for the warm meals, the late‑night talks, and the steady example. We will carry your love into every room we enter. We love you, and we’ll miss you.

Use or adapt any part of this example—swap details, change the hobbies, or add a faith element that fits your family.


Step‑by‑Step: Write Your Eulogy in One Hour

1) Gather quick notes (10 minutes).
Make three short lists:

  • Traits: caring, hardworking, playful, faithful, resilient
  • Loved roles: parent, spouse, grandparent, veteran, teacher, coach, neighbor
  • Moments: nicknames, family sayings, trips, favorite recipes, little routines

2) Choose two stories (10 minutes).
Pick moments that show who they were: a small kindness, a funny memory, or a challenge they overcame.

3) Use the template (25 minutes).
Write the opening, weave in your two stories, add the lesson(s), and finish with thanks.

4) Read it out loud (10 minutes).
Time yourself. Trim long sentences. Mark pauses and the words you want to emphasize.

5) Prepare for the day (5 minutes).
Print two copies, bring tissues and water, and choose someone who can step in if you get too emotional.


Eulogy Do’s and Don’ts

Do:

  • Keep it short and sincere—3–7 minutes is ideal.
  • Speak to everyone who loved them: family, friends, coworkers, church.
  • Share specific stories over general statements.
  • Practice once out loud and breathe.

Don’t:

  • Feel pressure to be perfect or funny.
  • Share private or painful details that don’t serve the family.
  • Worry if you cry—pausing is okay. People understand.


FAQ: What People Often Ask

Can more than one person give a eulogy?
Yes. Many services in the Dayton and Kettering area include one main eulogy plus one or two brief reflections. Keep total speaking time in mind.

What if I’m too emotional to finish?
Print a second copy and ask a friend, family member, or the celebrant to be ready to step in and read the rest.

Is a eulogy different for a cremation service or celebration of life?
The heart is the same—share stories, values, and gratitude. Celebrations of life may feel more casual; keep your tone warm and true to your loved one.

What if our relationship was complicated?
Focus on truths you can say with kindness: a quality you admired, a lesson learned, or gratitude for specific moments.


Quick Eulogy Checklist

◻  3–7 minutes (about one page, double‑spaced)

◻  Your name and relationship in the opening

◻  Two short stories that show who they were

◻  A value or lesson they passed on

◻  A simple thank‑you and farewell

◻  Large‑print copy + water + backup reader


We’re Here to Help

At Westbrock Funeral Home, our Dayton and Kettering teams can help you:

  • Collect stories and photos for the service or tribute video
  • Create printed programs with your eulogy and favorite quotes
  • Coordinate multiple speakers and the order of service

If you’d like a caring set of eyes on your draft, we’re glad to review it.


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